HOW TO MAKE NEW FRIENDS IN TORONTO
A guide to finding fun things to do and fun people to do them with in this incredible city.
For the past number of years, I've been experiencing a shift in my core friend group. We're still close, but close means something different when many of them are getting married, having kids, and, in some cases, leaving the city. As my lifestyle stays the same while theirs changes, our relationships evolve to seeing each other a little bit less. This has left lots of room for new friendships-- but making friends can be tricky.
I've been lucky enough that I've formed some great new friendships and met some wonderful new people over the last years, even in this post-pandemic world. The best tactic I have for finding my people? Going to fun things that I enjoy and meeting like-minded new friends who also enjoy those things! It does mean that I've gotten very comfortable going to things solo-- and that I go in knowing that there is a chance I won't meet a new friend while I'm there. That's why it's important to me that I like the event or activity to begin with, because if it feels like a chore and not a treat, I won't do it!
Where to Find New Friends in Toronto
Here's my list of the best places to find Toronto events where you can meet new friends.
1. Local Media: BlogTO, Daily Hive, Toronto Life
These local media outlets regularly post about events, new restaurant openings, festivals, and other social gatherings. Keep an eye on their websites and social media accounts for updates on what's happening around town.
Eventbrite is a fantastic resource for discovering a wide range of events happening in Toronto. From networking meetups and workshops to music festivals and cultural events, there's always something going on where you can meet new people.
2. TikTok Hashtags
Use TikTok to search for or scroll through hashtags related to Toronto. Hashtags like #TorontoEvents, #TorontoLife, #TorontoToDo and #TorontoFoodie can lead you to popular spots and events in the city, and help you connect with locals and fellow newcomers.
4. Local Restaurant/Bars' Instagrams
Follow your favorite local restaurants and bars on Instagram. Many venues host events such as tastings, workshops, bingo nights, trivia, and even cooking or cocktail classes, which they often announce and promote on their social media pages.
5. Market and Maker Accounts
Follow accounts like Stackt, Society Clubhouse, Sunday Variety, and Neighbourhood Market. These organizations host markets and events where you can meet local artisans and fellow market-goers. Makers like Original Genes and Spelljar Pottery also regularly host workshops and events.
6. Google Your Interests
It sounds simple, but don't underestimate the power of simply googling your interests followed by “Toronto” (e.g., “pottery class Toronto” or “wine tasting Toronto”) can help you find niche activities and classes where you can meet people with similar hobbies.
7. Social Groups and Event Organizers
Check out groups like Lovestruck Literary, Toronto Girl Social, Spark Social Club, and Between Space, which organize various social events and gatherings throughout the city. I haven't tried all of these, but the ones I have are filled with people actively looking for new connections.
8. Building Socials and Classes
If you live in an apartment building, check whether they offer any resident events, socials, or classes. These can be great opportunities to meet your neighbors and form connections within your building.
9. ClassPass for Workout Classes
ClassPass allows you to try a variety of different workout classes at studios across Toronto. This can be a great way to meet fellow fitness enthusiasts and explore different parts of the city.
10. Summer Street Fairs & Festivals
Summer market season is a great time to get out and meet people. Find and follow your neighborhood BIA (Business Improvement Area) on social media for details on local events and markets they might be organizing.
11. Groupon Deals
Check Groupon for interesting deals on events and activities. Filter by “tickets/events” to find unique social opportunities without wading through unrelated offers.
12. Follow Local Venues
Keep tabs on local venues like Scotiabank Arena and Budweiser Stage by following them on social media. Pay attention to show announcements and ticket sale dates to attend events with others who share your interests.
13. Local Theatres and Arts Organizations
Support and attend shows by local theatres and arts organizations. Some notable ones include Canadian Stage, Musical Theatre Company, and others that frequently put on productions and events where you can mingle with fellow arts enthusiasts.
14. Dating Apps
Not my preferred method, but I've heard great things about Bumble BFF and about Thursday, the new app that hosts weekly irl dating events in Toronto. Thursday is more romantic focused than friendship focused I think, but could still be an interesting way to meet new people.
So You Found an Event You're Interested In. Now What?!
If you're going solo, assume that other people there are too! It can be intimidating to start a conversation with a stranger, but remember that many people at these events are also looking for new connections. Here are some tips for kicking off the conversation.
1. Ease In
Maybe you're braver than I am, but for me, it takes a second to get my bearings. When you arrive at the event, don't hover at the door. Make your way over to the bar/coffee station/snack table if there is one. Getting something to eat or drink will give you something to do with your hands. Then enjoy it near this part of the room-- people tend to be open to connections once they have a drink in their hand.
2. Start a Conversation
Making friends requires putting yourself out there and being open to new experiences. Smile, make eye contact, and don’t be afraid to start a conversation. Genuine interest and a positive attitude can go a long way in making new friends. Chances are good that you'll spot a solo someone doing a similar look around that you are. Starting with a compliment or a question about what they are drinking/eating can be a good icebreaker. Talking to one similarly solo person can be easier than trying to join an already-formed group.
3. Be Welcoming
Once you're in a conversation, keep an eye out for others who are hovering or looking around awkwardly-- you were just in their shoes! Invite them into the conversation.
4. Keep it Going
Sharing socials can be a good, low pressure way to connect. It feels less intimidating to some than sharing phone numbers. The next time you have a similar event that you want to go to, reach out and see if they are going as well. If not, invite them along!
Making new friends is undeniably tricky. My best advice is to stay open to new people, engaged in your community, and ready to step out of your comfort zone. Happy socializing!
